While I write primarily for myself, it’s recently been pointed out to me that people read my blog, so today I felt that while I’m not currently representing a client, what better time to talk about everyone’s favorite subject – abortion?
Like most Americans, I have some strong feelings on the issue, and for those of you that know me, you know that I self-identify as “pro-life”, but I am a realist as well, while it would be ideal if every pregnancy ended with two doting parents who live happily ever after I recognize that could never be the case and reality is much more grey than that, a total abortion ban or even an extreme right wing position such as Texas governer Abbot’s six week policy isn’t practical.
I also strongly disagree that overturning Roe vs Wade will cost American lives – it’s a pretty simple fact that abortion ends more life than it saves. I also strongly disagree that abortion is strictly a women’s issue – my first wife and the mother of all of my children had a miscarriage at 4 or 5 months and a piece of me died with my unborn child that I have never recovered – I promise the death of the unborn, while it may not effect every father, it affects a lot more than some think.
The truth is abortion is at best a necessary evil and a traumatic event even for mothers of unwanted pregnancies and fathers who have never had a legal voice in whether or not their unborn child has a right to life.
What about abortion from rape pregnancies? It is completely disgusting to me that any man can get sexual gratification from a horrendous, violent act against a women. And for such a traumatic event to result in pregnancy, I can only try to empathize but could never truly feel how that women must feel, but for any woman facing this horrendous circumstance, it doesn’t have to be all deep scars and trauma – to protect privacy I’ll just say that a women that I love, and I love many women, is the daughter of a child rapist, and I couldn’t imagine my life without her.
While pondering whether the genetic offspring of a disgusting, violent criminal is worth saving, all I can speak on is my personal experience and the answer is yes – definitely.
While I don’t believe a victim of rape should ever be denied access to abortion, there are viable alternatives. I’m sure it could be hard for some mothers of this horrendous crime to imagine ever loving a baby with the face of the monster that committed the crime – but I believe the innocent face of a newborn baby has tremendous healing power, it could be just what’s needed to move past such a horrible event. Or even if not, plenty of parents needing to adopt would never see a monster, only a sweet innocent baby – a true co-victim of circumstance.
I’ll close with this- my first wife and mother of all of my children is dead, I’ll always love her, would never intentionally tarnish her legacy – but by all accounts was not the greatest of mothers. One of the things I most admire about the women of which I spoke earlier is how loving and protective of her daughter she is – it’s very endearing to me after having three children by a mother who was not the same to say the least. Even though her father was an evil man with violent intent towards children, she is a beautiful, kind and protective mother. Well, maybe not always kind but what mother bear isn’t a little mean when pushed? Point is, such an infant isn’t necessarily cursed by evil genetics – something beautiful, a real flower really can grow from a bowl of dirt.
That’s all for now, although we have our differences I love you America, I would put my uniform back on in a second if times permitted.
– Joseph Smith
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